by Irish Stewart
I love to talk to people. Every person has a story that helped make them who they are, and every person’s story is meaningful to them. But, once in a while, someone has a story that could be truly meaningful to many others; a story that needs to be shared.
Recently, I was talking with a female friend that I have known for quite some time when she decided to share her story with me. We were discussing the “War on Women” that is being waged in our country. After listening to it, I knew it needed to be shared with you.
“I’m tired of all the so-called ‘pro-life’ people and politicians in this country trying to tell me what’s best for me, my body and my family. None of them know me or what I have been through. I am a woman who has lived it all. I’ve experienced every possible pregnancy situation a woman can experience.
My 1st baby, a little girl, was stillborn after I had a late-term miscarriage at eight months. Her brain was underdeveloped.
Two years later, I was beaten and raped by a man I had been dating for three weeks because I wanted to stop seeing him. That was an awful experience on it’s own, but then, I discovered – to my horror – that I was pregnant. I made the difficult choice to give the baby up for an open adoption because I could not be CERTAIN that I could look at the child of my rapist every day and not, somehow, blame them. I had an emergency C-section and gave birth to a healthy baby boy. The adoptive family was thrilled.
A year later, my third pregnancy was unplanned. I was just getting ready to finally begin college and I was still emotionally torn apart from my last experience. I had an abortion at eleven weeks.
My next pregnancy came eight years later, after I had been married for two years. I gave birth, vaginally, to a beautiful baby boy.
Two years later, my husband and I were thrilled to find out we were expecting again, but then were devastated when I had an early miscarriage at three months.
You know what was the hardest on me? The one that caused me the most emotional distress, regret and residual mental issues? The adoption. Having an abortion seems like nothing after carrying a baby, giving birth to it and then, giving it away. Not that I’m knocking adoption, mind you. It’s a very important option for people to have…especially for kids in foster care who need families.
But, I rarely ever think about the abortion, and to have so many politicians and rabid ‘pro-life’ strangers trying to convince me that I shouldn’t have the CHOICE to have an abortion as opposed to being FORCED to give birth and go through that awful decades long emotional turmoil isn’t right. “
Exactly. It’s not right. –> OUR lives! OUR bodies! OUR choice!